I have a standing disagreement with my brother-in-law. He says we're all damaged goods. I disagree with caveats. I think our cycle of life starts out with us not really knowing ourselves well enough yet - that's what youth is all about, right - to know who we want to share our lives with or even how we want to spend our lives. As we have relationships, we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves, who we are and what we want. Now I can agree with my brother-in-law when we have those relationships and don't take the time to learn from them, to understand what worked, what didn't work and the whys. We can only do that if we accept responsibility for our actions in those relationships. So if we can't accept responsibly for ourselves and we don't discover what we learned, yes, we might be damaged good.
If instead, we consciously discover who we were being in that relationship, realizing what is important to us and for us as individuals and then consider those qualities in who we decide to have a relationship with in the future, we have indeed grown ourselves...not damaged.
I think this is a life long learning. We shouldn't stop learning. We continue taking off more layers of our onion selves. Then we know what we want and are unwilling to settle for anyone less in our lives.
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I continually find Sig's writings to be extremly insightful and filled with wisdom. There is no doubt that if we would all lead our lives with her philosophies in mind, our lives would be so much more full. I will continue to check back on this blog and see what other life-enhancing tidbits I can acquire from this blogger. She has my gratitude as well as my utmost respect.
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